Do you ever put yourself down for not getting everything done, not getting it done right, and not getting it done fast enough?  Do you ever feel guilty because you think you could have done the work better?  Do you ever feel worthless because nothing you do seems good enough?  Do you ever say to yourself, “What the heck is wrong with you?”  “How could you do something like that?”  “Won’t you ever learn?”

Beating yourself up will never motivate you to change.  Beating yourself up with negative self-talk is the single most damaging thing you can do to yourself.  As Rhonda Britten would say, “You’re spinning on the wheel of fear.”  When you beat yourself up your confidence, courage, and self-esteem are damaged.  You disempower yourself and it keeps you in your negative self-talk.   

What if you stopped beating yourself up and instead empowered yourself in any situation?  You could accomplish living your life on your own terms.  You could shift your negative thoughts about yourself to empowering thoughts.  You would begin to notice the things that you do well.  You would begin to notice your unique qualities, your skills, your talents, and accept that you’re okay just the way you are. 

Awareness is the key and can empower you to stop beating yourself up.  Increased awareness helps you to hear your negative self-talk immediately after you utter it.  By catching it more quickly you can then choose to stop it and shift to more empowering, good feeling thoughts leading to positive actions

Acknowledging yourself daily is an amazing tool to stop the habit of beating yourself up.  This technique builds your self-esteem and your ability to count on yourself.  It is a specific way of giving yourself credit – credit that is no doubt long overdue.  Acknowledgments are an incredible tool for self-discovery, giving you the ability to increase your awareness of who you really are and at the same time validating your achievements. 

Trying to be perfect only leads you to disappointment.  Learn to be kind and compassionate to yourself, give yourself a break, and quit trying to be perfect. 

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

Sending You Love and Blessings, Joyce

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“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”.  www.FearlessLiving.org

We are what we repeatedly do.

–Aristotle

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” –Oliver Wendell Holmes

We attract that which we desire when our subconscious thoughts and beliefs are in harmony with what we consciously intend.  But if our subconscious thoughts and beliefs run contrary to our conscious wishes we may ultimately lose the result we have achieved or want to achieve because the strength of our subconscious beliefs tends to eventually win out.  This is not cause for blame or guilt.  After all, we are not aware of how our subconscious beliefs work.  So how do we get clear of these contrary beliefs?  It’s all about “becoming aware”.  For my life the first area to explore was fear and how it was affecting my life and my choices.  How it prevented me from attracting and receiving that which would support my health, well-being and happiness.

I first recognized the definition of emotional fear and my body’s reaction to it.  My body’s reaction to fear was the same whether I was faced with a physical threat or an emotional one.  The problem was that the experience of a real or perceived threat was stored in my long-term memory.  So when I would see or hear something that appeared to be a threat my instinct was to run to avoid the pain whether it was physical or emotional.  I didn’t think to stop and find out whether the danger was real or not.

Throughout my life I added to my fears through my experiences.  As these negative experiences, either perceived or real, happened regularly over many years then my mental, emotional, and physical health were affected and clearly in danger.  This harmed my ability to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and it harmed my ability to simply enjoy life.

Becoming aware was the first step to healthy change.  I made the choice to become aware of how emotional fear was running my life and I learned what those fears were.  I then had the power to break free of my conditioning (old patterns of thinking and behavior) and make choices about how I wanted to think and behave.  Otherwise my subconscious mind and my conditioning would continue to decide for me.

I learned about the Fearless Living tools and concepts and I now use them in my own life daily.  They have shown me how to outsmart fear rather than allowing the memory of fear to determine my life.  I have learned to embrace the fullness of who I am including my limitations.  I have learned and practice daily making choices that support me in being my true self - the person I was meant to be.  I am once again able to experience my natural state of harmony and balance, good health and well-being, and I’m able to simply enjoy life once again.

My experience can also be your experience if you choose to explore how fear controls your choices, your health and well-being, and your happiness.  Self awareness is the key to transformation and in creating the life you desire.

I would like to receive your thoughts on fear and how it can control our lives and our choices.

“Live the Life Your Soul Intended” quote by Rhonda Britten founder of the Fearless Living Institute and author of the book “Fearless Living”.

“Do not fear going forward slowly, fear only to stand still. -Chinese Proverb

“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be. -Wayne W. Dyer