How can we achieve “Being Open to the Holidays”? We all have different expectations and different reasons to celebrate the holiday season; such as religion, family and friends, presents, decorations, parties, food, or giving to those less fortunate. As I was thinking about the many different reasons for this holiday season and how we can be open to these experiences I thought of two questions: “What is the joy of simply being open to life? “How can I accomplish this as I prepare for the holidays and on Christmas Day?” As these questions are answered you will gain insight and understanding which will allow you the ability to create and make this holiday season the best ever and then continue to apply these principles in the coming New Year.
For me the joy of simply being open to life is being open to the challenges that are presented to me each and every day. The joy is in choosing to look at these experiences as opportunities to learn more about myself, about others, and about life. The joy is in the insights and awareness’s I receive which supports me in looking at life with love and acceptance. This creates more joy.
Joy is created as we accept our self and others for who we are - weaknesses and strengths. We can only do this when we choose to let go of our expectations. Expectations can set us up for disappointment. We can’t control what other people choose to say or do. We can only control our own choices. Begin to recognize words that tell you your in expectations – I should, I have to, I need to, I’m expected to – and instead ask yourself, “Do I want to do this?”
Recognizing whether you are doing something because you want to or because of expectations will support you in how you approach the decision you do make and then how you follow through – either with joy or dread. If you feel “dread” then expectations are in play. If you choose to do something that you dread, take time to think about it and choose to become aware of why you feel that way. Then you can begin looking for the positive reasons why you are choosing to do something instead of feeling you have too. Remember, you are in control of making the choice, and because of that you are in control of either making it a dreadful experience or a joyful experience.
For some of us this will take daily focus on taking responsibility for all of our choices. Everything we do is a choice. If you choose to take a risk and not do something that is expected of you look at it as an opportunity to practice saying “NO”. Saying “No” and choosing “You” is okay!! You don’t have to make excuses and you don’t have to blame yourself or someone else for the choice that you make.
How can we let go of our expectations as we prepare for Christmas Day – by turning them into Intentions? Once we have identified our expectations, there is a much greater possibility of attaining freedom from being disappointed in others behavior and their reaction to us, and in being disappointed in our self. You can learn how to reframe your expectations into Intention. Expectations are what you think ought to happen as a result of what you do, say, or plan. It’s dependant upon an outside source. Whereas, Intentions are your approach to life based on the person you truly are – your essence. It’s dependant only on you – your internal source. When you are focused on your Intention you become focused in the present and you become open to life around you.
What’s so wonderful is that when you act out of Intention instead of expectations, you begin to experience the joy of being open to life and you expand the possibility for more positive outcomes. When you live in Intention you are able to find your courage and make the choices that support the person you are truly meant to be. Setting an intention can support you in having your best holiday season ever. Take the time to visualize what it is that you want to happen this holiday season. Ask yourself these questions; how do I want to show up and how can I create my best holiday season ever?
Gratitude’s are also valuable in supporting your intention and turning your holiday experience into something good that will help not only you but other people as well. Gratitude’s help you to recognize all that is right and beautiful in your life and in your day. Gratitude’s help you to acknowledge your fine qualities, abilities, and accomplishments. Gratitude’s support you in spending your time and energy in the moment rather than trying to understand the why. When you are in a state of Gratitude you allow your peaceful voice of intuition to become your primary guiding force.
Gratitude’s do more than make you feel good for awhile, they literally change the way you think. Gratitude’s shift your focus so that you are aware of what you have instead of what you don’t have. When you make Gratitude’s an important part of your day this holiday season, you will increase your ability to see opportunities and possibilities where perhaps none existed before.
As Christmas Day approaches make a list of all the people and things in your life that you are grateful for. Try to put aside any dread, anger, resentment, or disappointment and focus on creating good thoughts. Think about the opportunities and possibilities that are available to you on that day. Set an intention around how you want to show up on Christmas Day. Become clear in your mind as to what you want to experience and what will support you in achieving that goal. Setting an intention, being grateful, looking for opportunities and possibilities, and being clear on what it is that you want will help you to focus on the present moment and enjoy what is happening now.
I wish you the best Holiday Season ever!!!
Blessings, Joyce
I would enjoy hearing your comments on what “Being Open to the Holidays” means to you…
Joyce Henderson
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We are all living, whether we like to admit it or not, in turbulent times right now. We are consumed with fear and our faith is being tested. Everyday I wakeup with the intention to think positively, focus on the good but even with the best intentions I sometimes find myself failing miserably. But, instead of beating myself up, complaining, making excuses, or avoiding the situation, I ask myself. “what is the gift in all of this mess?” In order to find the gift we must look for it and ask ourselves ”what is right during these challenging times and what is it that we can learn?”
Don’t let fear keep you stuck by complaining, making excuses, or ignoring the situation. This is an opportunity to be a part of the change that is needed in helping our country move forward and thrive. In order to be a part of this opportunity we have to VOTE on election day, November 4th, 2008. I’ve included a blog written my Rhonda Britten, founder of Fearless Living Institute and author of “Fearless Living”. This article expresses my feelings and I hope encourages you to be a part of this time of challenge.
Warmly, Joyce
Election - written by Rhonda Britten
This election, being fearless means you will:
1. Vote
I have spoken to many folks and some are hemming and hawing not sure who to vote for. The next words out of their mouth shock me: I will vote but not for the President. Or I hear: I just don’t know who to vote for so I just won’t vote.WHAT!!!?!?!?!?!
Indecision is a natural part of the process but deciding not to decide IS deciding. If you don’t vote, you are giving the rest of the nation the opportunity to choose your fate. I challenge you to figure out where else in your life you are allowing ‘fate’ to make your decisions for you. This is a passive way to live and not the fearless path.
2. Language
Become aware of the fearbased language the candidates use as well as their fearless words. What issues concern you? Pay attention to how the candidates are proposing to solve them. What is their process? Are they making suggestions based on the fear of the masses? Are they creating long lasting solutions? Listen, listen, listen. Do not let your Wheel of Fear listen for you.
3. Think about your great grandchildren
The challenges we face right now are ones that must be solved for the long-term. Short-term solutions are band-aids. Sometimes we need a band-aid but if we keep the band-aid on too long it gets crusty, infected and ineffective. A band-aid is not a solution. Just like a wound we must let it heal and that takes time and care.
Every election is critical for the creation of the United States of America. We are literally choosing how our nation will develop based on the candidates and their policies.
I urge us all to pay attention to how we listen, how we decide, how we vote.
We will have a new President. Decide to have your voice be heard. Vote.
“Invest in the life you have now to get the life you want” Rhonda Britten
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